For Christmas this year my mom gave me perfume. I found it to be a strange gift, because rarely do I wear perfume. But then she explained it to me; when she first started dating again after her divorce she wore this very same perfume. She told me that it’s been 3 years (almost) and that it is time for me to put myself back out there again. I have been hesitant to return to the dating scene, but I think she may be right. At the very least, I need to go out and have some fun. I need to remember that I am not just a mother, I am also a woman and a person who deserves to be happy and not always cater to others. (this is hard for me)
I’ve been feeling increasingly sad lately and while I think it is OK to feel this way sometimes I know that I need to break out of this pattern and start living a happier life.
I am hoping that 2009 will be a year of self-discovery for me. I need to find more balance in my life, something that is sadly lacking right now. I also need to learn to have fun apart from my children and find ways to make myself happy. I know that this will not be easy for me; I will dedicate this year to Me and I will be a better mom as a result.
After my mom left, I sprayed the perfume on my wrist and realized that it smells just like her — she forgot to mention that she still wears it. While I like the idea of Perfume Power I need to find my very own perfume that uniquely represents ME.
What a thoughtful gift but you are right, you need to find your own scent. Let me throw Pink Sugar out there. A friend of mine just got it for Christmas and I love it.
I’m all for getting back out there. Which doesn’t mean you have to start dating or must go “find a man.” Go out. Have fun. Live life. Love life.
What a great idea. Good for your mom to encourage you to get out and date! And you’re right, you need to find your own scent. Something quintessentially you.
That is an awesome idea and gift!
I’m with Elisabeth, thoug. You don’t have to “find a man” so much as get out there and have some fun.
My friend just regifted me a perfume sample as party of my Christmas gift (a joke b/c her SIL totally just sent her perfume and shampoo samples for a CHRISTMAS gift that’s all. Just samples she got for buying nice stuff at Sephora or whatever), and one was called Butterfly Kiss or something. It was actually quite nice. But I currently have a cold, so maybe nostrils might be deceiving me.
SWM: What a fabulous idea; I never know what to do with those samples, now I have a solution. Everyone I know will be getting samples as gifts from now on. haha
Actually, I am going to break into those samples and see if I like any of the scents.
Thanks for the recommendations. I am going to check out the perfumes you and Elisabeth mentioned!
And yeah my focus is definitely more on getting out and having fun rather than on finding someone. I need to focus on me for awhile.
Oh wow. I can’t believe you were able to decipher my comment with all the typos in it!
Yeah, awesome gift, though, right? Can you believe it?
I’ll keep my nose out for any other interesting scents I might stumble upon. I used to wear Elizabeth Arden’s Green Tea for years. Now I’m interested in perfume again!
Hooray for your mom! That’s an amazing outlook! I personally spritz myself with Miracle……because that’s what every day is…
Get out there and have fun this year…you deserve it!
Every one in this world has the right to live life ,as they wish . I wish this year brings new light in your life & may God fulfill all
your wishes. Give yourself personnel time & space ,moreover never forget your duties as a mother.
Thanks, Jessy Mark, Perfume Mall
Finding balance for ourselves in motherhood, single motherhood and all the rest is something that we can achieve with an immense self awareness….I get off track all the time, despite the fact that I feel like I am at a time and place in my life where I am most balanced.
On the perfume, I buy a perfume and use that one until it is gone. I then find a new one. So it changes, my own scent, every year or so (or however long that perfume lasts)