I’m feeling better. I often feel guilty for having woe is me days. It’s been 2+ years since my ex and I split, shouldn’t I be used to this already? Obviously, it’s not that simple or easy.
Some days I just need to have a good cry, feel sorry for myself, and wallow in it. My life didn’t turn out the way I wanted it to; I made some bad choices that lead me to where I am today. I feel guilty about that, but I’ve realized that there is no use crying over spilt milk. What’s done is done and I can’t change it. As hard as this path has been I have grown enormously, I have learned so much about myself and for that I am grateful. Positive effect of divorce, I suppose.
Now I need to find a way to make the situation better, learn from my mistakes, and move on towards happier times.
I’ve decided to throw in the towel for online dating. It’s just not going to work for me. I am not that eager to meet a man. Maybe at some point in the future I’ll re-visit it. For now I am going to focus on increasing my social network (which is disturbingly slim right now) and try to enjoy my life the way it is.
It is so hard to make new friends as an adult (especially as an adult who happens to be a single parent). I have joined Meetup.com and will be giving that venue a try.
Of course, life continues to throw me curve balls. Tonight I discovered that the girls and I have an uninvited pet — a mouse. I am so disgusted by mice. But I will handle this, just like I handle every other challenge that comes my way…
[I am having difficult getting accustomed to the new wordpress dashboard so that will explain any strange occurences on my blog! Or the fact that you left me a comment and it took me ages to approve it. ]
Oh my goodness I hate mice! I have a couple of the trying to live in my kitchen right now. They are in the drawer under the oven (where I normally keep the baking sheets and muffin tins). I caught a couple with these brilliant no touch/no see traps but they seem to have caught on to the trick and I’m not catching them anymore. But they’re still there. Ugh. Can’t stand it!!!
I think my mice are inhabiting the exact same area in my house. I will be purchasing some of those traps first thing tomorrow!!
Hi Nice Blog.
You’re right, the best thing to do is learn from your mistakes and live a better life and move on. I hope you’ll be okay soon.
Regards,
Chris
I’m glad you are feeling better. I have been separated for 4 years, divorced officially for 1 and I still have the occasional bad days. I find it better to wallow in them, eventually they pass and it usually feels better to have gotten the crying out.
I have yet to brave the world of online dating. But I am finding real dating to be so complicated. (Is there anything that is easier as a single mother?)
Oh and I’m right there with you on the wordpress changes. I like it, it’s just taking some getting used to.
Oh honey, everybody needs woe-is-me days….it’s part of the healing process. Whether it takes days or years, it doesn’t matter as long as you continue to move forward and move in a positive direction.
It took me many years to discover that I was worth something after I left my X, and a couple more after that before I started dating…baby steps and time…..it heals all.
Add me to the list of people who are happy you are feeling better. I get like this too much. I get funkified for a few days, and then I’m out of it, then I’m back in. I’m hoping I can figure some of these roller coaster emotions with some therapy….
Don’t feel guilty! This is my biggest problem I think. Guilt and regrets are so poisonous to our lives, but they are so damn hard to shake.
P.S. Just pretend you have cute Stuart Littles running around your house, and quietly try to put an end to their exsistence. At least you don’t have rats.
Real helpful aren’t I?
Glad to see you are feeling better. They have those cool D-Con traps where you don’t have to look at the mouse. They are pretty costly but worth it I think.