I’ve been on facebook for awhile now and I find myself in a strange position. There are many friends from my past who I’d like to reconnect with, but I am hesitant to do so because they don’t know about my marriage and subsequent divorce.
I’m embarrassed to admit that I’m divorced.
My divorce is a very personal and painful part of my life. It’s not something I’m proud of and it’s not something I like to discuss on a regular basis. I am hesitant to tell people that I’m divorced because I don’t want them to think less of me. I know that if I were to explain the entire back story they’d understand completely, but that would be a very in depth conversation that I’m not likely to have with just anyone.
When I tell someone I have 2 young children they automatically assume that I’m married, despite the fact that I’m not wearing a ring and there is no male presence in my life. The problem is that the longer I let the ruse go on the more difficult it becomes to tell them the truth.
I find myself in a precarious situation. Do I just tell everyone I meet? How do I judge who needs to know and who doesn’t? How can I put my pride aside and be proud of my accomplishments rather than just being ashamed of my failure?
